Jan 04 2010
Why Don’t Guys Wear Their Wedding Rings?
As far as I know, when you’re married you wear a ring to show your commitment to your partner. I have been noticing more and more men who don’t wear wedding rings. Why not?? I personally find it disrespectful to their wives. When I get married my husband better wear his wedding ring!
When I meet a guy out at a bar, one of the first things I do is glance at his left hand at his ring finger to see if he is taken or not. If your man is not wearing his ring, I may just hit on him. The last thing any normal single girl wants is to get involved with a married man!
Some guys say that the reason they don’t wear a wedding ring is work related. They can’t wear rings around construction equipment, electrical equipment, etc. or some guys just don’t like the feel of jewelry on their fingers because before they were married, they had never worn jewelry on their hand.
I can understand this but it sucks for us girls. We have to wear an engagement ring anywhere from months to years before we are married to show we are taken, when we aren’t even married yet.
I can understand guys who are athletes and can’t wear their wedding band. That makes sense too, but what about outside of work or sports? Why do I see so many married men without rings?
Maybe guys want to see if they still have their mojo and see how many girls hit on them. I don’t know maybe they need a boost of confidence or something. This still bugs me though regardless of the reason. I feel like they should want to wear it. It should be a good thing, not feel like a chore. If you are happily married it should remind you of your happiness and love with your partner.
Does your husband wear a ring? If not, why not? I’d like to know what guys would think if their wives didn’t wear engagement rings or wedding rings. I don’t think they’d like it too much.
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Yeah, umm… my post was about guys who don’t wear rings. Not the high maintenance guys who have gems on their rings…
It’s up to the individual. There’s no law anywhere that says you have to wear one of course. It’s a social custom, but in no way required. It’s one thing if a man isn’t wearing one so he can flirt with the opposite sex…but the wearing of a ring doesn’t prevent that. It’s very easy to slip off at any time. I love and trust my husband, but not because he wears a ring.
And women don’t HAVE to wear an engagement ring. I didn’t. Think I read that 80% of brides have one; that means 20% don’t. It’s up to you. Personally I think diamonds are waaayyy overpriced, but that’s me.
My husband and I have gold bands, but honestly I don’t check out other peoples’ hands to see if they wear a ring. To me it is more of a personal symbol, a reminder to him and to me of our love for each other, and not so much a statement to the rest of the world.
Thanks for your insight, Patty. I agree, I think that diamonds are way over priced too. They are nice to look at, but in the end, I would probably want something plain as well. I am not a big diamond person at all. Even if I were given diamond earrings, I wouldn’t wear them. No way.
Women don’t HAVE to wear a ring. When I get married I plan on putting my ring on a chain to wear as a necklace when I feel like wearing a necklace. I personally can’t stand the feeling of a ring on my hand all the time.
Men will get hit on whether they wear a wedding band or not — it’s not only men who look for trouble. If my man didn’t want to wear his ring I wouldn’t care since I trust him not to flirt with other women. If you can’t trust him why are you marrying him? A ring is a symbol and memento, not a magical shield.
I cant stand wearing rings or any jewelry. It is torture and agony that makes me feel like jumping out of my skin. i cannot get used to it at all, its just 100% unbearable – YOU, the author of this blog, Dont experience this and dont experience extreme sensitive hearing and feeling. Your blog likes torture. you like people to do things that makes them feel like jumping out of their skin because you are evil
My perfect wife would not care for a ring. I don’t. I would even buy her jewelry every now and again if she liked jewelry in general, but not an engagement ring or a wedding band. My *opinion* on the ring matter for *me* is that whether I made 15 or 150 k a year, I don’t believe that a ring represents *my* love – my actions and words do. I understand about the single people looking for the band idea, but I feel that I am smart enough to avoid situations where women would flirt me up, and if I had to be in that kind of situation for some reason, I’d quickly let them know that I was off limits. I couldn’t see myself marring a woman that I couldn’t trust with that task either. I won’t be asking her where she’s going if it’s not necessary (she’ll tell me if she feels she needs to), I won’t be touching her phone, or reading her emails, and I’d want the reverse to apply.
Since this is not a perfect world, if my future wife wanted a ring, and wanted me to wear one, I would if it were that big of an issue, but I really couldn’t see me being with someone who’d force me to wear a ring. I wouldn’t force her not to wear one if she wanted one. I would also question the relationship if she wanted x carats, etc. instead of just a ring as a symbol, but this would be a conversation that would happen long before a proposal.
I too agree with most of you. If my husband didn’t wear his wedding ring, I would be hurt and mad. Your husband should wear the ring as respect to you and your marriage. End. Of. Story.
I Love my wife more than anything in the world!
But my work exposes me to criminals that I feel do not have the right to know if I have anyone close to me that they can hurt. Not wearing my ring allows me to do my job without any fear for my wife’s safety.
I wear ring on a necklace and never take it off.
And if my wife does the same, I’ll be ok with it
I play rugby and only take my ring off during a match, all my friends are married and they are real tough guys and thye wear thiers. i dont go in for this fancy stuf just plane simple ring for guys.
i really hate jewelry on men, i think it looks stupid but theres something manly almost macho about a guy who wears a wedding ring.
ive had more women hit on me since i got married than before.
im 100% faithful though.
i never thought i would enjoy wearing it but i do, its cool if you get the right one that suits ur look.
Men wearing wedding rings is a recent phenomenon. As a working class man born in the sixties I cannot recall ever hearing of the concept and I certainly never saw a wedding ring on any of my friend’s fathers or saw any men get rings at any wedding ceremony I attended . A few of my friends who married in their thirties do wear wedding rings (funnily enough, the ones who got their ears pierced in the 80s) but to me it is a completely alien concept and I’d no more wear a ring than I would a pair of pearl ear-rings. I guess the author must be quite young as, from my point of view, far more men are wearing wedding rings these days, not less and less. To be fair I thought women wore wedding rings because they wanted to, it being a part of the tradition of a marriage, but it wouldnt bother me if a wife didnt want to wear one either.
Neither one of us wears a ring and we have been together over 10 years. If the only thing telling you he loves you is him wearing a ring you have serious issues.
I certainly don’t want him to buy me a diamond ring. Everyone knows the suffering and pain that goes into mining diamonds and the waste of money spent on a silly bauble is irresponsible.
Invest in a college fund for your kids, buy a new home, take a trip, anything but spend a bunch of money on a ring.
I trust my love and he trusts me. It’s insulting to him that he would have to wear a band to keep him honest and warn off other women. He can take care of himself.
My husband rarely wears his ring (he hates the feel of it), but i wear it only when i feel like it. we both wear them when we are out on a date, just because that’s OUR time and we enjoy showing off that we aren’t just dating. I personally don’t really like having it on because i always work around the house, do dishes and notice it gets yucky overtime. my ring is very expensive and i dont want it to look old, afterall I’m going to have it for a very long time!
conclusion – its not about the ring. its about how you feel about each other! if a man wants to cheat – the ring won’t stop him. same goes for a woman
Im having a major issue right now with this which has led me here
I have just gotten married and didnt have a proper ring for the ceremony just something to symbolize during the vowels. Now after mentioning of getting a ring i suggested to wear it on a necklace so that i could wear it all the time and im not really into the feel and fashion of males wearing rings (personal choice) however this has caused major problems of if i dont wear it on the finger she says she will be disappointed and feel bad that when someone asks to see my ring i wont have it on my finger. Im feeling scared that ive entered into this commitment with such a voilent hold on my freedom to choose where i can wear my wedding ring!! What can i do????? :’(
I am recently struggling with this. My husband has always worn his ring but recently is not wearing it (married 7 years). While I understand both sides of the debate and my ultimate challenge is to ‘live and let live’ even with my husband. I will leave the choice to him. The last thing I would want would be for him to wear it because I have demanded it of him and he feels obligated rather than honoured.
my husband does not wear his but i know we love each other he loves me and i love him.thats why we got married in the first place we been married for almost 7 years in december
I am a young adult man. I have never wanted to wear a wedding ring. Since I was little it just sounded like a nuisance to me. It would annoy me so much. I’m a simple man. I don’t wear any jewelry; watched, necklace’s, bracelets, rings, etc. I don’t like them, they annoy me.
So I really don’t want to wear a wedding ring. I don’t have intentions of cheating or flirting with other girls. I’m always faithful.
Though I can’t imagine a girl that would be ok with this request.
I however would be slightly thrown off if my wife didn’t want to wear hers. Just because girls seem to want to, seem to dream about it, and generally like jewelry. Though if my wife, as I, didn’t want to wear a ring, shocked as I would be, I would be completely ok with that. I don’t need a ring to remind me nut to cheat, or be faithful, or to remember that I love a girl. I have friends who get tattoo’s of their families, friends and stories to remember that they love that person, or people or to remember a circumstance or story. But I don’t bed a tattoo to remind me of who I love, just as the ring. I’m not gonna be siting there, looking around, checking our women, and then see my ring and go “ohh yeah! My wife, I love her..”. I know I love her. I don’t need a ring to tell me that. And I shouldn’t think that I nor her needs a ring to know that.
i am currently having issues with this. i have been married for 2 years now. i am definitely not a girly type and never wore jewelry, esp rings. when we got engaged i was so excited but wasnt sure i would like wearing a ring. cost wasnt important, we bought rings we could afford, its not about the type of ring, though for me it is symbolic. not that i need a ring to insure a good marriage, but for me it is a symbol of respect to show off that you are happy in love. again, not that its necessary but it should be something thats proud to show off.
so i wore my engagement ring, even tho it felt awkward. but i loved it and it became comfortable, and now it feels awkward if im not wearing it. anything feels weird until you wear it often and get used to it. my husband doesnt wear his ring. it makes me sad and makes me feel like we are on different pages. at first he would say it was dangerous at work, which i can accept and agree in certain lines of work. he is in the military and worked subcontracting for a while. but now he works 3rd shift at a gas station.. hardly dangerous enough to rip a finger off like ive been reading about.
i have discussed with him that i have an issue with it and why i have an issue. sometimes he gets defensive and annoyed. he has worn it on occasion like when we go to family events. it made me feel creepy when we would go out together and i was wearing my ring but he wasnt wearing his. but he still rarely wears it, and im a little offended that hes not wearing it at work. i also feel disrespected that he knows it means alot to me but still doesnt wear it. its like a slap in the face. ive eplained this to him but he gets offended. how is he offended?
this isnt the main issue but it adds fuel to the fire. i try to explain things to him like we have a 6 month old who will be crawling soon and i cant let him on our floor because he leaves trash and dirty dishes and its disgusting but he gets mad when i ask him to clean it up. i feel like certain things that are important to me cant be discussed cause he gets mad. im mad about it and he shuts me out. grrr. it builds and explodes and i feel like were drifting, our intimacy is lacking and i dont know how to help it
As a single woman, I hate it when guys don’t wear wedding rings. It seems like every guy I’m attracted to is married and doesn’t wear a ring. I end up flirting with him whenever I see him for a couple weeks and when I get enough courage to ask him out he’ll tell me he is married. They don’t think to tell me that when we first meet. I’m getting tired of being mislead. It’s happened many times this year. I’m tired of having my heart crushed by guys who don’t wear wedding rings.